Can a marriage recover from an affair?

Many do, and some don't. Recovery depends on the partner who had the affair taking responsibility without minimizing it, and on both of you doing work between sessions. Your baseline assessment and our first sessions give us an honest read on where you're starting.

What if we haven't decided whether to stay together?

That's common, and you don't need to decide before you start. Part of the early work is getting clear enough to make that decision on purpose instead of by exhaustion.

Will we talk about the details of the affair?

Some, yes. The hurt partner usually needs answers, and avoiding every question tends to keep the injury open. We work out together how much detail actually helps and how to have those conversations without making things worse.

What if the betrayal is bringing up older trauma?

Sometimes an affair lands on top of something older. When that happens I may recommend individual EMDR sessions alongside the couples work, the same way I do inside the couples intensive.

Is couples work right if there has been abuse?

If there is physical violence or ongoing intimidation in the relationship, couples therapy isn't the right place to start. Tell me at the consultation and I'll help you find the right support.

Is this covered by insurance?

No. PostScript is a private pay practice, so nothing about your relationship goes into an insurance record. You'll receive a Good Faith Estimate of costs before your first session.

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Affair recovery counseling in Colorado Springs

Affair recovery counseling helps a couple understand what happened, what it did to the relationship, and whether there is a version of the two of you worth rebuilding.

I'm Sarah Post Massey, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Colorado Springs. I work with couples after infidelity in weekly sessions or in a four-week intensive, using the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy.

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What the first weeks look like

The weeks after a discovery are usually the hardest. Sleep goes sideways, and every conversation circles back to the same one.

We start by slowing that down. You both complete the RDAS, a relationship assessment, so we have a baseline. Then we set ground rules for how the hard conversations happen, so the hurt partner gets real answers and neither of you gets ambushed at the kitchen table.

Couples sessions are $200, private pay.

How I measure progress

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Send me a note and I’ll reach out to set up a time to talk.

This form does not start a therapy relationship. If you are in crisis, call or text 988.

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Weekly sessions or an intensive

Some couples want a weekly pace. Others want concentrated time while the decision still feels urgent. My couples intensive runs two 90-minute sessions a week for four weeks, $2,000 total, with a $500 weekly payment plan.

What a good outcome looks like

Repair is one outcome. The partner who had the affair takes real responsibility, and trust gets rebuilt through behavior you can both see over time.

Separating with less damage is the other. Some couples learn in this work that they are done, and they leave with a clearer understanding of what happened and a way of talking that makes the next part less destructive.

Both of those count. What I try to help you avoid is another two years of the same fight.

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Questions about affair recovery

Many do, and some don't. Recovery depends on the partner who had the affair taking responsibility without minimizing it, and on both of you doing work between sessions. Your baseline assessment and our first sessions give us an honest read on where you're starting.
That's common, and you don't need to decide before you start. Part of the early work is getting clear enough to make that decision on purpose instead of by exhaustion.
Some, yes. The hurt partner usually needs answers, and avoiding every question tends to keep the injury open. We work out together how much detail actually helps and how to have those conversations without making things worse.
Sometimes an affair lands on top of something older. When that happens I may recommend individual EMDR sessions alongside the couples work, the same way I do inside the couples intensive.
If there is physical violence or ongoing intimidation in the relationship, couples therapy isn't the right place to start. Tell me at the consultation and I'll help you find the right support.
No. PostScript is a private pay practice, so nothing about your relationship goes into an insurance record. You'll receive a Good Faith Estimate of costs before your first session.

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